North Tahoe Hebrew Congregation

Rabbi Beth says, there are a few exceptions to the rule that one must tell the truth. "LYING FOR SAKE OF PEACE Our sages allow lies in order to save a life. For example, the midwives Shifrah and Puah were praised because they risked their lives by lying to Pharaoh to save newborn Israelite babies born in Egypt. (Exodus 1:19-21) Generally, truth must be told, but there are a few additional exceptions for cases involving modesty, humility, protection or preventing humiliation. Though Torah said, “Distance yourself from a false matter” (Exodus 23:7), our sages say that one should be pleasant and keep the peace. However, they disagree about what to say if someone marries an ugly bride. Should she be praised as she is or told she is beautiful? (Ketubot 16b-17a) While there are a few reasons lying may be permitted, overall, our sages say, “Liars will not receive the divine presence” (Sotah 42a) and “G-d hates one who speaks one thing with his mouth and another in his heart.” (Pesachim 113b)." ...